Ten Principles of Interpersonal Harmony
The following are the 10 basic principles to be properly followed in interpersonal communication, and the 10 basic “notes” that are essential for harmonious communication.
First, everyone living equally in the real world, regardless of level of job, knowledge level, gap between rich and poor, physical strength, age, age, and gender, is equal in personality.
Therefore, in interpersonal communication, we must not elevate ourselves by one inch, lower others by one foot, and deliberately “cross a ditch, across a wall” with each other, giving others a “rejection of people thousands of miles away”sense.
If in the communication the power is used to oppress people, the power is used to oppress others, the bully is weak, and they are regarded as superior and others are worthless, then no one can be equal and no interpersonal person can live in harmony.relationship.
Second, respect and desire to be respected are the basic psychological needs of everyone.
In interpersonal communication, we should give due respect to all people, no matter how high or low they are.
We must always respect the personality of others, their personality habits, their power forms, their interest and importance, and there must be an explicit or internal psychological distance between each other. Do not easily break through and destroy it, otherwiseIt is offense to the other party that will inevitably cause the other party to be alert, disgusted and alienated.
Self-esteem is the most sensitive corner of a person’s soul. Once a person’s self-esteem is frustrated, he will contend with you ten times crazy and hundred times more powerful.
In fact, it is not difficult to achieve some others, sometimes it is just a smile, a greeting, a salutation, a pair of ears that are good at listening, a mouth that does not ask questions and spread gossip, and it will bring sunshine and warmth to others’ moods, of courseIt will also bring you sincere friendship and harmonious communication.
Third, communicating with CCTV’s famous host Bai Yansong once said: “Every life needs to confess.
“Then, what follows with expressions is interpersonal communication.
Only communication can let others understand themselves, and at the same time they can understand others; only communication can continuously improve mutual understanding, thereby reducing or avoiding unnecessary misunderstandings and frictions.
The more you do n’t communicate and the more you intentionally defend, the harder it will be to get people ‘s hearts to communicate. Communication needs to be proactive, waiting blindly for others to communicate with you, and waiting for a “good relationship”.
Being able to communicate is not the same as being able to communicate. Good communicators know that different communication methods are adopted according to different objects and occasions, and they know how to sing and sing.
Communication is always closely linked to eloquence, which lays a smooth path for your communication and can help you write harmonious chapters in your communication.
Fourth, there is no two identical leaves in the world of tolerance, nor are there two identical people.
As the saying goes, “the ruler is short, and the inch is strong”. Personality and strengths are different. You cannot force consistency in dealing with interpersonal relationships.
To live in harmony with one another, we must have a broad mind that seeks common ground while reserving differences, understanding each other, and not full blame.
Since we are not perfect ourselves, how can we demand perfection from others?
In interpersonal communication, we don’t ask too much of others, don’t force others, but we must make people and people, tolerant and tolerant.
People can not escape from doing wrong?
Once the other party has made a mistake, we should not disapprove. We should provide him with loose conditions for correction, forgive others for their faults, and help others to correct their mistakes.
“Hainanbaichuan, there is capacity is great,” the old saying goes, “water is clear and there is no fish, and people are clear and there is no friend.” In work and life, people always like to make friends with those who are tolerant and kind.”Wide is the winner.”
Fifth, appreciation hopes to get the attention and affirmation of others. This is a psychological need shared by people, and appreciation is a communication way to meet this need.
Relationship master Carnegie said, “The way to avoid abandonment is to discover the strengths of each other.
Therefore, in communication, we should attach importance to the attitude of appreciation to treat everyone, pay attention to the people and things around us, and discover the advantages and strengths of others.
Praise is a direct expression of appreciation.
There is a saying: “Good words, three warm winters,” and a sincere compliment can often bring a good mood to others and themselves.
Learn to discover the strengths of others and sincerely praise it. This is the “syringe” that promotes harmony in interpersonal relationships.
Sixth, transposition In real life, we are always used to starting from our own subjective judgments, so it often leads to some misunderstandings.
Therefore, in order to achieve mutual recognition and understanding, and to avoid misunderstandings and prejudices, we must learn to “think differently.”
The so-called “transposition”, as the saying goes, “sit on the bench”, is to be good at understanding each other’s ideas from the perspective and situation of the other party, experience each other’s emotions, and discover the individual’s individual approach to the problem.
Only by putting yourself in the mind of others will you be able to understand others in a reconstructed way, and then find the best way to get along, and the appropriate way to solve the problem.
Confucius had a saying, “Do not do anything to others, don’t do it to others”, which means that you don’t want it, don’t impose it on others, that is the truth.
It can also be said that a philosopher says, “Whatever you want others to do to you, you treat others first.
Therefore, as long as there is a little less self-righteousness in communication and a little bit more empathy, there will be less misunderstanding and friction, and more understanding and harmony.
Seven, a person’s interpersonal relationship is not harmonious. There may be many reasons for this. Among them, it is often related to his rigid communication style and leaving no room for it.
Therefore, we need to establish a “elastic barrier” in communication, so that ourselves, each other, or even both parties can get more room to maneuver, in order to reduce or avoid some unnecessary friction or injury.For example, when agreeing to others, do n’t always be so eloquent, and once you ca n’t fulfil it for objective reasons, do n’t you give the other party the impression of “no words and no faith”; when rejecting others, do n’t always say so hardRejection, you may agree to think about it first, give yourself some room for manoeuvre, and “go forward and back” when you step on it; when criticizing others, don’t just yell loudly, if it is in a public place, it is best to stop untilTake care of each other’s self-esteem; when you are in dispute or quarrel, don’t say anything “excessive” or “sexy words”, these two will seriously hurt each other’s feelings, and often make it difficult for both sides to believe “Step down “; when asking for help, don’t let the other party do what you want. Once things shouldn’t be done or the other party can’t do anything, it will inevitably cause an embarrassing deadlock, and so on.
A large number of practices have shown that adding more flexibility to your interactions and leaving room for yourself and others will help your relationship be more harmonious.
Eight, Confucius said in good faith: “If you have no faith, you don’t know what to do.
“Integrity is an invisible” business card “that concerns the image and quality of a person.
In real life, many people “look at money” and do not speak of integrity. Even their own friends and relatives dare to be deceived. This reduces the credibility of interpersonal relationships and seriously damages the harmony between people.
In the face of the lack of honesty, calling is not enough. Each of us is a brick and tile building of an honesty building. We need to start with ourselves and start with a small thing around us, such as: do n’t trust a thousand people, and treat others.Whenever we ask, we will do our best to do it once we agree.
If it ca n’t be completed due to objective reasons, you should explain it to others and seek the understanding of the other party. To be a person in the true nature, do n’t always associate with a fake mask to treat others with falsehood; do n’t waste “there is no permanentThe idea of “friends, only forever,” communicates with people with a “utilization” mentality, and even leads to the despicable act of “breaking the bridge across the river”. Defensiveness is indispensable, but it is not necessary to fortify everywhere.Looking at people from a skeptical point of view, suspicion is the reef of interpersonal relationships.
As long as each of us adheres to honesty with our own actual actions, and believes that the fire of honesty can become a source of ignorance, why not build a harmonious interpersonal relationship by then?
Nine, cooperation In today’s society, competition between people is becoming increasingly fierce, but this does not mean that cooperation has become unnecessary.
On the contrary, experiencing the fine division of social division of work and the increase in the proportion of intelligence in the work content, many tasks no longer rely on individual strength to complete, but rely on teamwork to achieve.
No matter how great a person is, he is a “good iron”, but how many “nails” can he hit at best?
Therefore, cooperation is the basic principle of interpersonal communication. A person who is good at communication must be a person who is good at cooperation.
Competition on the basis of cooperation, cooperation on the basis of competition, is the basic situation of interpersonal communication.
If we only talk about competition and not cooperation, then competition must be unscrupulous and disorderly competition, and the harmony of interpersonal relationships will be impossible to talk about.
Therefore, in interpersonal communication, we should give the other party more support and less demolition; more consultations and less stubbornness; more communication and less closure.
Only in this way can our interpersonal relationship be less tension and friction, more warm and harmonious.
X. Reciprocity In real life, the discordant notes appear in the relationship between people, causing some contradictions and frictions, and this is related to the damage to one party’s interests.
Therefore, in order to effectively resolve contradictions and eliminate friction, we must not be too selfish and “eating alone”, but we must adhere to “reciprocity” and pursue “win-win”.
For example: in a communicative mentality, don’t just want to enjoy yourself, not to make others comfortable, let alone put the other person to death as a hurry; when thinking about the problem, you can’t just think for yourself and not for others, and only consider the immediate interests.Long-term interests; when the opinions of the two parties cannot be unified, they can jump out of the “thinking mindset” and seek a compromise solution: when there is a dispute on the interests, the two parties must sit down and negotiate sincerely, and if necessary, they must be properly coordinated. Interpersonal relationshipsTo achieve harmony, a certain balance must be maintained. Any good relationship benefits both parties. If one party is damaged for a long time, this relationship will not last.
In communication, as long as we are willing to take a step back, to give the other’s face enough, to have some flexibility in our own bottom line, to share the interests of the other, and to seek common development, then we can certainly get communication.The best effect of this must also make interpersonal relationships more harmonious.